Friday, September 12, 2008

And Now for Something Completely Different

A guy I went to High School with recently got a divorce after being married for barely a year. I don't know him that well, so I don't know the details. And they don't really matter, I guess. But the situation did get me thinking. Maybe too much.

First: one year? Wow. I cannot imagine things spiraling into disrepair so quickly. Maybe, of course, it was a bad situation from the start, a silly decision that good friends and sound reasoning could have prevented. Can you imagine the conversation that must have taken place?
Well, it's been a year. We gave it the old 'College Try'. But I think we should cash out before the warranty on the microwave expires.
Personally, I would like to think people don't commit to bad relationships. I know they do. But I close my eyes and pretend the world works the way I think it does (too many mainstream economics courses?).

Second: why are 22 year olds getting married, anyway? Ok. Maybe I am just being a cynic. But marriage is the last thing on my mind right now. I am (happily) single (with no prospects). Other people are having relationships; I am reading books and discussing how macroeconomic phenomena might emerge.

To be honest, I don't even know where I would meet a potential spouse right now. You can almost always find me at my house (studying) or in class. Or, I am having a drink with people from the class (talking about the class!). And I am guessing that "What do you think about spontaneous orders?" is not a successful pick-up line (though, I would be willing to give it a shot).

So who is right, here? Should I be thinking more about my future wife and less about the 'big questions that puzzle me'? Or are my married and marrying friends making a huge mistake? Do they know something I don't? Or are their calculations in error. Comments open.

(And don't give me the standard econ answer. I know different people have different preferences. My question is completely normative: What should I be doing?)


Libby said...

You're currently in an economics PhD program. There's no way you have the time right now to make a woman happy. ;P

Juris Naturalist said...

I got married at 23, and have been married for 9 years now. I went back to school 3 years ago, after our kids were of school age, and my wife went to work.
Grad school, especially with night classes, is ROUGH.
It can work, but it is hard, and a wife would have to be willing to postpone kids and be a sugar-momma, or just be poor for a few years.
That said, if the right gal comes along, don't hesitate.